But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. Don’t get me wrong, there are advantages in a 45-year-old guy. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes.
Don’t try to fit in their shoes; you’re not standing where they were at that point. When women have led troubled lives, they tend to internalize their sorrow and hatred. Of course, you have to respect her choices, but think of this more as a friend to her.An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.You reach out, help them get on their feet, and be there for them in any way you can.The thing is, sometimes we say the wrong things and after that, even if we want to help them, they retreat from us.
Harrison Ford being an exception for me as well though, I have to say.