If you emotionally vomit on someone and spill your whole life story during the first three dates, where’s the fun in that?It’s like telling someone what’s in the present they’re about to unwrap. Focus on having fun, enjoy the mystery, and going from casual to serious will happen naturally.If you drift apart, you know they were never going to commit and you saved yourself time, trouble, and heart ache.Q: My date says it’s just casual, but acts like it’s serious?Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.
Q: I’ve been dating this person for months, and when I ask if we’re a serious couple or not, the subject gets changed or I get ignored altogether. One, they’re interested but not good at communicating or are feeling pressured and don’t like it.If it’s “to get to know someone”, you’ll probably seem interview-ish. People like being around fun, low-pressure people with no expectations.The best way to look at a date is a chance to have fun. As things progress, that’s when you get to know each other.Sure, acting unavailable might work at the casual dating stage, but what happens after that? Learn an instrument, a language, or take dancing lessons. 2) Set Boundaries Why would someone commit to you if they’re getting everything they want without the commitment?How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.
The final milestone is when you know it’s official – whether you say it’s a serious relationship or not.