I recently delved into the topic of ‘ghosting’, which is when someone who you’ve had an intimate relationship with disappears.But of course disappearing isn’t limited to ‘full-on’ relationships: ghosting is something that many people have experienced with dating plus it happens with friendships and even with family—my father ‘ghosted’ me after I got married and it took a couple of months for it to register and when it did, it floored me.…, today’s post focuses on dating.Back in olden times, it was understood that if we didn’t hear back after a first or early date, it was a no-go.If they didn’t call after one-nighter or fling, although we’d likely feel a bit hurt and disappointed (especially if they were giving it the big talk while we were shagging our brains out), we’d still get the gist–it’s a no-go.After that I vowed not to dodge texts and calls and I stuck to it, even when he was a Mr Persistent.I knew with the latter that my only option was to be direct rather than dodging and once I knew that I’d been direct, I was free to ignore any texts or calls after that.
That means we can’t ‘end’ things even if it’s been brief and then lurk but also if we’re on the receiving end of it, we need to respect their position rather than demanding to know why or even asking for an exit interview (I kid you not). This means that staying grounded and being personally secure rather than coming from a place of, Am I about to be screwed over or abandoned?
They had been herded onto a large but barren reservation through a series of wars and unhappy treaties.
The main source of food, clothing, shelter, and just about everything else -- the buffalo -- had long since been hunted into near-extinction.
Or a vision of the moon or a white buffalo could lead one to a life as a berdache, a man who dresses and behaves as if he were a woman.
In any case, the number of roles one could play in life was extremely limited for men, and even more so for women.