Yes sometimes it’s because we want to see the best in people, but often it’s a backhanded way of seeing the best in us.What we hope people are fits into the context of our own aspirations, possibly with them.I had this very long discussion with my mother yesterday about this topic and she couldn’t help but point out that my now husband and I knew we were serious about each other within a few months.I laughed and said, “Yeah mum, but you don’t see me sitting here calling him an asshole nor was I doing this in the weeks, months, and years after we met…” I hear stories all the time where people say stuff like, “I thought that they would do this”, “I was so sure that ________ would happen”, “I wouldn’t have expected that from her because she’s _____________ ” and “If it were me I would have ____________ so I just don’t understand why they did _____________” Not all of our expectations are realistic.Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.
If you project, you’re just screwing yourself over and that’s before they even have the opportunity to disappoint you based by not matching their own actions with their words.
It to expect that relationship to go somewhere if when you remove what you’re doing, there isn’t much left, or you’re engaging in unhealthy behaviour within an unhealthy relationship. Whatever you expect should be based on the unfolded and unfolding person, not on a ‘snapshot’ that you took that bears no resemblance to who they Hi, I’m Natalie!
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We set ourselves up for disappointment when we see X at the outset of meeting somebody and assume that they are Y and that Z is going to happen.