It’s about the mistaken assumption that younger women will be more malleable.” In fact, young women in their early and mid-20s are quite malleable, something a woman that age might deny, but ask that same woman in her 30s to look back at her younger self and it’s likely she’d concede the point.So why are young women so willing to date older men?But there are some things you need to be realistic about if it’s going to.First, you need to know what you’re comfortable with—and you need to be confident about telling him or exactly what that is.Once you get to high school, a whole new world of possibilities opens up for you.Suddenly you aren’t limited to dating the boys you’ve known since kindergarten—the same ones who put gum in your hair or threw spitballs at you from across the room.He says, “If there’s one tangible thing that men can do to help end sexism—and create a healthier culture in which young people come of age—it’s to stop chasing after women young enough to be their biological daughters.” Schwyzer goes on to say, “As hyperbolic as it may sound, there are few more powerful actions that men can take to transform the culture than to date, mate, and stay with their approximate chronological peers.If aging guys would commit to doing this, everyone would benefit: older men and younger men, older women and younger women.” There’s no doubt that not everyone will agree with Schwyzer on this, especially not other middle-aged men.
I stayed married to my husband for seven years, and by the time our relationship ended, I saw our age difference in a completely different way.
It’s quite common to see older men and younger women dating in this country and all over the world.
You might even say Western men are better able to maintain their desire for younger women in a way that isn’t as pedophilic as others.
“Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity,” Schwyzer says.
“That callowness is often oversold by too many aging Lotharios wanting to emphasize the difference between their own supposed expertise and young men’s clumsiness.” Mmm-hmm. According to Schwyzer, many young women end up with older men who are “deeply unsafe.” For his part, Schwyzer urges older men to mentor younger men instead of taking advantage of the younger women those young men should be dating.
When I was 25, I married a man 12 years older than me.