Honor every invitation that you receive, attend house parties and gallery openings and events, meet people and have them introduce you to more people, drink bucketloads of wine and take up a faux smoking habit – most Parisians meet while smoking, otherwise known as, which I find mildly disgusting.
And yet, it is at social gatherings, lubricated with cheap white wine, where men actually grow the balls to start talking to you.
Frenchmen like to flirt as well, even if they know very well there is no hope of it leading anywhere.
The game is the main point, it’s relatively innocent and usually no-one gets hurt, just a little blushed :-) With kissing hi and goodbye being the standard and French women being more “flirtatious”, it can be difficult for foreigners to correctly read a French woman’s body language.
This is a cultural thing, stemming from the fact that French women do not respond well to being approached, and tend to reward the poor fellows with dirty looks and snide repartees.
If I had a Euro for every time a guy mimics the stank face a Parisienne gives him if he dares to speak to her in a café, I would be rich.
I know that may sound slightly slutty and slightly bizarre, but this is how French “dating” works.
Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.
I guess it’s much more accepted in France for men and women to be friends.
While I certainly don’t claim to have success in this arena, I will aim to answer them to my best extent! It’s not even that these people are cheap, or that they don’t eat, it’s just that everything is done with a certain nonchalant casualness that makes me, personally, yearn for days past when a man booked you in advance and actually made a conscious effort.
Question #1 What is the best advice you can give someone who is new to the Parisian dating scene or what shocked you the most about dating in Paris? The second thing that shocked me, and that every one of you newbies needs to be aware of, is that French men do not pick up women in public.