Women tend to use words like "independent" and "ambitious" to prove they're not clingy and have their own interests.
He hears: I have unrealistic expectations for potential partners, and it's unlikely that you'll make me happy. Telling him right off the bat that you're fussy significantly decreases the chances he'll contact you.
A recent study by found that over 49 million people per month look for love on e Harmony and alone.
Here, statements women make in their profiles that chase away eligible bachelors. He hears: I'm not financially secure, and I believe men should take care of women. " asks Eli*, a 41-year-old from Orlando, FL, who's used online dating sites.
He hears: I'm older than my profile says, but you won't date me if I tell you my real age.
"It's a little 'thou doth protest too much,'" says Katz.
Instead, Davis suggests searching for people within your income bracket (which is an option on many sites, though a study by dating site Ok Cupid revealed that people typically inflate this number by 20%) or looking for other clues in their profiles, such as similar favorite travel destinations. He hears: I've been burned, and I have major trust issues. "You're not going to scare off the liars," cautions Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach and author of .